On Monday morning, when A and S and I walked to the park, I looked at those two boys and thought how I should cherish the moment: A with a green bandana covering his head with silvered sunglasses and S in heart-shaped sunglasses with red shorts and a white sleeveless t-shirt wearing his sandals backwards. The thought also occurred to me last night that when I take care of them, most of the time I don’t need to be the disciplinarian, that I can just be the enjoyer.